reality show "For the love of Ray J" -Kechley Bruna

The reality show that I decided to analyze is " For the love of Ray J." The purpose of this show is to find a girl friend for pop r&b artist Ray J. The summary for this episode reads: Ray J will have the women, who are competing against one another for his love and affection take on a challenge, which will involve everyone participating in a strentuous dancing competition he will judge". This show is gendered in numerous ways bacause the girls in the show have to fight to gain the attention of ray j and almost always end up betraying and turning on each other. The challenge for this episode was for the girls to break up in to three teams and create the best dance routine. Which ever team does the best gets the chance to go on a one-on-one date with Ray J. The whole fact that the girls have to fight for his attention is wrong because Ray doesn't focus on solely one girl; yet they are required to give one hundred percent of their attention to Ray J and just hope he does the same in return. In the begining of each season each girl changes their name to whatever Ray J sees fit. During this episode Ray takes "Mz Berry" and "Lava" to a club. When Lava tries to claim Ray J as her man and acts jealous she is portrayed as crazy. The show depicts her as "the psycho girlfriend" while she remains in his room for hours awaiting his return. I found it pretty weird that when Ray showed his jealous side on the show it seemed normal and noone had a problem with his actions. Ray does so when he finds out that one of the girls (luscious) had a past relationship with his DJ friend. When she doesn't tell him immediately Ray almost eliminates her and during the elimination he reveals to everyone that luscious "smashed the homie." The word choice in itself makes her seem like a slut. The information that Ray discovered was in her past and still made him jealous. However when "Lava" got jealous because Ray shared her date with Mz Berry and hung out with the other girls in the jacuzzi afterward she was labeld and portrayed as crazy by Ray and the other girls in the house. When Ray J returns and sees Lava in his room still he say " I gave you your private time" as he wonders why she is still there. ultimately the gendered qualities of this reality show is 1) having all the women in the house fight for male attention 2) when one women is jealous she is seen as psycho and when Ray depicts the same feeling he is seen in a postive light. The language used in this episode is extremely gendered as mentioned before when Ray says "you have your private time...I'm gonna go check on my other girls...smashed the homie..."